ESTABLISHING ONENESS IN YOUR MARRIAGE

September 21, 2025   Chaplain Doug Kinder

INTRODUCTION – WEDDINGS

What parts are optional?

What is non-negotiable?

1. The promise to PURSUE ONENESS.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”  Genesis 2:24

2. How promises ARE BROKEN.

Big exits

Little exits

3. God’s plan for oneness through EQUALITY.

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them.”  Genesis 1:27

a. Value determined by PERFORMANCE

b. Value through GRACE

4. AUTHORITY vs. SUBMISSION.

“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”  Ephesians 5:22

“Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.”  Ephesians 5:25

5. The EMOTIONAL differences between men and women. 

6. Six factors that will DESTROY A MARRIAGE.

a. CRITICISM 

b. CONTEMPT 

c. DEFENSIVENESS

d. STONEWALLING

e. HARSH start-up

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”   James 1:19-20 NIV

f. NEGATIVITY

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”   Philippians 4:8 NIV

7. Three critical issues AFFECTING ONENESS in marriage.

a. Your COMMON DEVOTION to Jesus Christ

b. Trust and RESPECT

c. Money and FINANCES